I am not fond of labels, so I hesitate to write about this, as I don’t want you to think I am talking about this because I am on a mission to change the birthing world we live in. I know that my choice to home birth my children was for me and not against […]
Does the Water Go All the Way Around the Island?
No, this isn’t a question for “Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader,” but rather a question asked to my aunt by another adult (many other adults). My lovely aunt spent nearly 30 years as a bartender in Key West. I am grateful that I have had the privilege of spending long periods of time […]
Friends, Un-friending and Blocking on Social Media
Where are you in your own understanding of yourself? Seeking to know by contrast (friends); questioning what you know or don’t know (un-friending); or do you think you have decided (blocking)? And if you think you have decided, how do you know you have made the right decision? All of this from a basic function […]
Trusting Your Own Understanding and Moving Beyond
Studying as an adult from a variety of people comes with a lot of invitations to attend all sorts of “high end” retreats promising all sorts of things, from personal growth, business growth, relaxation while working, being with like minded individuals, master minding together, healing, etc. We have been on a handful of retreats and […]
Understanding Why We Need Contrast in Our Lives
“Well you only need the light when it’s burning low Only miss the sun when it starts to snow Only know you love her when you let her go Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low Only hate the road when you’re missing home Only know you love her when you let […]
Why Do I Put Pickles in a Bloody Mary? Because I Enjoy It
I have studied under Jack Canfield and simply adore him and all the work he and his staff do. He often asks, “What is the WHY behind everything you do?” And for a long time, I had trouble with this question. I didn’t get it. You do things because they need to be done. I […]
Dan and Kim Cox of Inspiring Desires: Our Story…
We met 23 years ago. I (Kim) had just opened my eyes to the reality that dating a gay guy probably wasn’t going to help me in my search for a relationship with a straight guy. A divorce and the seemingly unavoidable series of bad dates had left me enjoying the comfort of being with […]
Nouns or Verbs: Changing Limiting Beliefs and Expanding Possibilities
Which have you been labeled — introvert or extrovert? Are you truly shy and reticent OR outgoing and overtly expressive, at ALL times? I am fascinated by the word or. We commonly think of it as a limited choice between two things… hot or cold; inside or outside; today or tomorrow; boy or girl; happy […]
My Selfish Reason for Wishing the Gay Community Didn’t Want Marriage Equality
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for marriage equality and I am very happy when people achieve a goal they believe in and accomplish — woohoo!! Oh, and this has nothing to do with sexual preferences (to me, the gay community has far more depth than sexuality), so check your judgments at the door […]
Living and Healing with an Adult That Was an Abused Child
It takes patience and kindness. You must be cautious of evoking envy, boasting or pride. You must guard yourself against their attempts to dishonor, make you appear self-seeking, angering you easily or keeping a record of your wrongs. You must stand strong in truth and deny evil. You must protect, trust, hope and persevere on […]
My Messy Belief Systems Melting Into My Marriage (and Life)
I want to be honest here and let you know that whatever you think our lives look like on the outside, this is what it used to look like on the inside: Lots of sorted piles of contaminated, filthy laundry…AKA…belief systems!
Assessment Tests: I’ve Tried Them All and the Verdict Is In
“What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer Whether they are skills, career, personality type, strengths, weaknesses, favorite color, birth order…I encourage you to look at why you are […]