I want to be honest here and let you know that whatever you think our lives look like on the outside, this is what it used to look like on the inside:

Lots of sorted piles of contaminated, filthy laundry…AKA…belief systems!

Dan and I had worked hard and we had a lot to show for our efforts in both material and non-material things. And…I wasn’t happy. And I don’t think Dan was either (he might deny that, but he isn’t writing this. I am. ;-).

I love my husband and I know he loves me and something just wasn’t right. I kept “doing the laundry” and the filthy piles kept returning; it never felt finished or complete. Occasionally, Dan would help with the laundry, but the results were the same.

One day while we were in Florida, I was folding the laundry on the side of the bed, with my back to the window, and feeling the weight of the never ending, never completed task. I know this may seem woo-woo, but I heard a little voice inside that said “move to the other side of the bed and keep folding.” OK, I’m game for humoring myself from time to time. As I began folding from the other side of the bed, I lifted my head and look what I saw.

I love being near the water (that is why we were in Florida!), and I love that water represents flow. It moves, it circulates, it cleanses itself, it cools in the heat, it allows us to be weightless when we simply surrender into it and float on its waves. It is complete and yet never ending. Damn, a simple shift in my perspective made a phenomenal softening in how I viewed my marriage (and life).

I started thinking about how this “sign” could help my frustration and struggle with my lack of happiness. We will always have old belief systems come up, which gives us the opportunity to move and change direction, to cleanse our thoughts, to cool our temper, to let go and feel lighter, and to merrily move with it instead of against it.

Something as simple as moving to the other side of the bed. Yep, it is that simple. We just like to make it difficult so we can stay in our old stories. Let go and go with the flow.

Photos: Kim Cox