"Many of us hold on to only those memories designed to protect us from being hurt again, memories that support our defenses, memories that the evolutionary biologists claim are part of our inborn 'negative bias.' Could any memories be missing?" ~ Mark Wolynn, from his book It Didn't Start With You If you really take the time to think about...

Words I have written numerous times about words. They are simply fascinating to me because they are our 'go to' means of communication and yet they are our most unreliable means of communicating. I think this is especially true for the English language. There are so many words that sound alike, even spelled the same way, but have entirely different...

I think we have an addiction to treats, being treated and even to treatments for the quick and short term satisfaction that they provide. I think we avoid the wholeness, conclusion and freedom that healing provides. Why is that? Treated or Healed? Where are you? Treats, Treated or Treatments Treats, being treated to or by someone favorably and even treatments...

I recently saw a Facebook post where the writer used this term, "Energetic Groping". The crux of the post was about someone trying to market to another person based on an intuitive piece of information that they had received about that person. The writer was not happy about the way in which the person was trying to serve her with...

Dan and I are both Reiki Masters and many people have no idea what that is. We didn't know either until a few years ago. As many of you might know, Dan is a child abuse survivor and “Thriver” and it took many years and a lot of open mindedness to get to this point. When healing from any trauma...

It Really is OK to be Selfish. When you look up the definition of selfish the first half is about lacking consideration for others and unfortunately that is where most of us stop. No one wants to be thought of us not being concerned for others. But as you continue on in the definition, the second half is being devoted...

What is your body communicating to you - is it pain or is it energy? There is a pretty well know story about "The Fall" and I have many issues regarding this story but there is one that stands out the most for me. It has to do with the introduction of the nocebo effect. A nocebo effect is when...

Words to me are both fascinating and infuriating at the same time. Words are the most commonly practiced way in which we currently communicate with one another and words are so often misunderstood, misused, manipulated (twisted) and by far the least effective way to communicate. Empathy, sensing, energy, feelings...these are all much simpler and reliable forms of communication, but no...

Having the courage to sing... I loved elementary school. I mean really loved it. And man did it fuck with my mind. Seriously. Fucked with my mind. Third grade. My teacher was Mrs. Perkins and outside of my family, I thought she was the coolest person that ever walked the earth. Thankfully, she was because there were some other teachers...

I have always been fond of the color red. I am not a big fan of "Hallmark" holidays such as Valentines' Day, but anything cheery in February, is a welcome thing. Instead of writing about the holiday, I decided to write about the color red. Like most things, red has many different and varying definitions and associations attached to it....

It is Not ALL About You. I think this one was a big aha moment for both Dan and I when I said it. So often we use all, always, never when talking about something and rarely do these adverbs apply especially when discussing behaviors and events. But we like to use them for emphasis. We think our opinion and...

Allowing a Voice I don't think that I, or anyone, consciously choose to experience the emotions of sadness and grief, but I have learned to allow them in and to let them do their job. This hasn't been easy nor did I get to this point quickly. I resisted this for a very long time. Why couldn't things just be...

We Are Closer than You Think "You think I'm being patronizing? No, we are like 1 and 11, you and I. We are closer than the others.... Winning and losing doesn't matter. We jump to free our souls.... We are the only ones with a chance to make history.... If we do less than our best with the whole world...

If I was the person I am today the day I got married, I am not sure I would have gotten married.  But, I don't want a Divorce. That doesn't mean that I don't love Dan to pieces and enjoy our life together but it does mean that I don't know that I agree with all the conditions and expectations...

I love to wrap presents. Wrapping Christmas gifts brings great joy!  Enhancing a gift and making it even more special for the recipient is exciting! It is like foreplay is to intercourse. Fun, exciting and full of anticipation of what is to come. And sometimes it is even better than the gift...I am talking about the wrapping paper, you are thinking about...