I recently saw a Facebook post where the writer used this term, “Energetic Groping”. The crux of the post was about someone trying to market to another person based on an intuitive piece of information that they had received about that person. The writer was not happy about the way in which the person was trying to serve her with her intuitive vision as though it was more special or valid than her own inner knowing. I get that and agree with it but what really fascinated me was the terminology of Energetic Groping and I don’t believe that it is exclusive to marketing.

I believe that we are all energy and therefore energetic. How energetic we are varies greatly. Rocks are energy that are not very energetic or extremely low in activity. Trees are more active. People vary how great their energy activity is at any given time based on multiple factors. There are many people who are very spirited and vibrate at a higher energy level than others. Other people are stuck in trauma/drama cycles and tend to vibrate lower as a means of protecting themselves. The problem comes in when higher is considered better or lower is considered the norm. It is as if energy levels somehow work on a hierarchy. I don’t believe energy works on a ranking system, especially one that values higher as superior than lower. What about the ones in the middle or the ones that fluctuate all over the place?

Those that live at the extremes, either high or low, tend to think that where they are is the only place to be…for everyone. Think about a very joyous occasion and how you wished everyone could feel that way. Or think about a very rough time and how you thought for sure no one else could feel as bad as you did at that moment. When someone is on the extremes they can often be very persuasive and suck you up or pull you down if you display even the slightest doubt in where you are. I had never thought of it as groping but that is exactly what it feels like when someone wants you to be somewhere that you simply aren’t.

The ones at the higher energy level tend to be overjoyed and want nothing more but to share that with you. Anything less is not tolerable to them and that is great…for them. The ones at the lower energy level tend to be overwhelmed and want nothing more than for you to be there with them. Anything more is not tolerable to them and that is great…for them.

The Middle of the Road

I tend to live in the middle. I go to the extremes as necessary but I don’t stay there. I think the extremes are for visiting, not living. I didn’t always know this. I used to think that living in the middle was wrong. That I was just middle of the road, mediocre and mundane. I used to think that others somehow knew more than I did, that I was flawed in some way and therefore unable to know for myself what is best for me. I know that to some degree or another, we all think this. We are trained and conditioned to think this.

Adults always know what is best for us. Teachers always know what is best for us. Bosses always know what is best for us. How could someone else possibly know what is best for us? They can’t, but we have to be ok with where we. If we aren’t ok with where we are than we will be sucked up or pulled down as we are fumbling around.

That is why it feels like groping. It isn’t about what someone else is doing, it is about how we feel about what we are doing. If we are confident and grounded in ourselves, no force will be stronger enough to pull us in. If we aren’t, we are subject to Energetic Groping from all directions. Again, it isn’t about what the other is doing, it is about you.