I think we have an addiction to treats, being treated and even to treatments for the quick and short term satisfaction that they provide. I think we avoid the wholeness, conclusion and freedom that healing provides. Why is that? Treated or Healed? Where are you?
Treats, Treated or Treatments
Treats, being treated to or by someone favorably and even treatments we receive are all things we get outside of ourselves. They temporarily make us feel better whether it is satisfying a sweet tooth, having the bill paid by someone else or receiving a treatment that provides some relief. They are all good things and things we enjoy. They are relatively easy to come by and there are countless forms available to us at all times.
Healed & Healing
Although others and outside things can help us on our healing journey, true healing comes from within ourselves. You can read all sorts of self help books, attend seminars, practice good self care, etc. but the healing that restores you to a healthy, whole and sound person only comes from within. Only when you decide that you are tired of the quick and temporary fixes that being treated provides, will you look inside yourself for the cure that will bring healing.
The obstacle is that we think we healing is hard. Hard things are only hard because we think they are hard or most likely because we have been told they are hard. Isn’t the need for seeking constant treatment hard? Doesn’t that require time and dependence on others? It appears easy because in most cases we merely have to show up. When we are the patient or in the victim mentality (powerless) we are passive and submissive. If we are the participant or in the survivor mentality (powerful) we are active and resistant.
We all need and desire to be treated from time to time. It can be extremely beneficial…to a point. Like the saying “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” It is more worthwhile to learn how to fish than to simply rely on someone else to always be providing you with fish. Help once in a while is fine. Dependency is dangerous on an ongoing basis. Seek treatment when you need a helping hand, seek healing when you are ready to help yourself.
Where in your life are you depending on others? What can you do to learn to do it for yourself?
