What is your body communicating to you – is it pain or is it energy? There is a pretty well know story about “The Fall” and I have many issues regarding this story but there is one that stands out the most for me. It has to do with the introduction of the nocebo effect. […]
Compliance and Meekness
Words to me are both fascinating and infuriating at the same time. Words are the most commonly practiced way in which we currently communicate with one another and words are so often misunderstood, misused, manipulated (twisted) and by far the least effective way to communicate. Empathy, sensing, energy, feelings…these are all much simpler and reliable […]
Having the Courage to Sing
Having the courage to sing… I loved elementary school. I mean really loved it. And man did it fuck with my mind. Seriously. Fucked with my mind. Third grade. My teacher was Mrs. Perkins and outside of my family, I thought she was the coolest person that ever walked the earth. Thankfully, she was because […]
The Color Red
I have always been fond of the color red. I am not a big fan of “Hallmark” holidays such as Valentines’ Day, but anything cheery in February, is a welcome thing. Instead of writing about the holiday, I decided to write about the color red. Like most things, red has many different and varying definitions […]
It Is Not ALL About You
It is Not ALL About You. I think this one was a big aha moment for both Dan and I when I said it. So often we use all, always, never when talking about something and rarely do these adverbs apply especially when discussing behaviors and events. But we like to use them for emphasis. […]
Allowing Sadness and Grief a Voice
Allowing a Voice I don’t think that I, or anyone, consciously choose to experience the emotions of sadness and grief, but I have learned to allow them in and to let them do their job. This hasn’t been easy nor did I get to this point quickly. I resisted this for a very long time. […]
A Line or A Circle?
We Are Closer than You Think “You think I’m being patronizing? No, we are like 1 and 11, you and I. We are closer than the others…. Winning and losing doesn’t matter. We jump to free our souls…. We are the only ones with a chance to make history…. If we do less than our […]
But I Don’t Want A Divorce
If I was the person I am today the day I got married, I am not sure I would have gotten married. But, I don’t want a Divorce. That doesn’t mean that I don’t love Dan to pieces and enjoy our life together but it does mean that I don’t know that I agree with […]
Being Curious
I love to wrap presents. Wrapping Christmas gifts brings great joy! Enhancing a gift and making it even more special for the recipient is exciting! It is like foreplay is to intercourse. Fun, exciting and full of anticipation of what is to come. And sometimes it is even better than the gift…I am talking about the wrapping […]
The Not So Toxic Relationship between Narcissist and Empaths
I get really tired of the number of articles written on these two personality traits and the implications that the only thing that exists between these two is toxicity. Not true. It can be toxic but only if you follow the normal or conditioned ideology of the relationship between these two. The truth is that […]
Riding the Emotional Waves
This has been something that I am getting pretty good at doing. Emotions are all about movement. Stirring, moving, agitation and strong feeling are all used in the etymology of the word emotion. So why the hell do we try to suppress, control, manage and avoid them? Stop doing that! Learn about them. I recently […]
Context and Calibrated
I was at a training a few weeks ago and the instructor used these two words, context and calibrated, when we were discussing connecting meaning together. This blew my mind! Early this year I wrote about Assessment Tests and my general disliking of them. Context and calibrated connected the dots for me as to why […]