Someone manipulating me into something they believe is best for me is the number 3 thing that pisses me off pretty quickly. Seriously? You think you know me better than I do? Especially if that someone is a person that holds a degree, certificate or position that they think entitles them to fix me, with or without my permission.

The number 2 thing that pisses me off is when they lie or withhold information in an effort to do so. My blood boils when this happens. I could take down a building with the amount of energy I feel when I feel like I have been mentally, emotionally or psychically violated.

Know what the number 1 thing is that pisses me off is? When I ignore my own intuition or gut feeling about a situation. This then gives power over to the other person and opens up an opportunity for them to manipulate me. I get so angry when this happens. How dare someone do this to me? Why do people have such a need to control others, at any cost? It would be so easy to be angry and pissed off at the other person, but that anger is mine, for me. They didn’t do it to me. I allowed it. Damn.

In order to lead a healthy life, I have to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in my life. I can’t be a victim. When I am a victim, I have no control and no access to my own power. If I keep my anger, I get to keep the gifts as well. What I mean by “keep my anger” is that I don’t spew it out by getting mad at the other person (telling them off, writing a scathing email to them, keying their car…), but rather I allow that energy to simply be there. Amazingly enough, it will relatively quickly subside to a level that is manageable. That is, if you don’t feed it (doing the things I listed above). Once it is at a manageable level, you can make clear decisions that employ the gifts anger brings, such as honor, healthy self esteem, boundaries, protection for yourself and others.

So how do I stop creating situations that piss me off? I get what to do with the anger after the situation has happened, but how do I stop it before it happens?

Trust my gut! Every time I find myself pissed off like this, I can go back and find a place that I ignored my gut, my intuition. I may have been manipulated to ignore it by listening to, and subconsciously accepting, that which I didn’t consciously reject. But I am the one that chose to ignore it.

We live in a world that teaches us to trust our logical mind over our intuitive mind/body/spirit. In school (and most likely at home), academics were taught and valued, while intuition, gut reaction and sensitivity were dismissed and simply not explored as viable information. It is viable information. Trust it. When I do, I don’t get pissed off. When I don’t get pissed off, I remain in control of my actions and therefore don’t create situations that piss me off.

I haven’t mastered this by any means yet, but I am allowing myself to experience this and it feels pretty darn good when I trust myself, for NO ONE knows what is best for me, better than me.