Think about it, why do we make everything so damn complicated? And the answer is simple, we judge. As we use contrast to know ourselves as whole, we get stuck at judging that which we are not (and sometimes that which we are). We seem to have forgotten how to just be. To judge not. Not ourselves, not others. Judge nothing.

I think the “confusion” comes from our words, which are our most ineffective way of communicating with others and ourselves. Right alongside judging, we have judgment. We need judgment. Judgment is the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions. We need that to know who we are and what we want. Once we make that decision (using judgment), we worry what others might think of it, so we justify it by judging that which we did not choose. In other words, condemning what doesn’t work for us.

We are all on different paths, different journeys. No one’s decisions will ever be the same. They can be similar, but they will be as unique and as individual as we all are. So just because something doesn’t work for you, let it be. Don’t judge it. Don’t condemn it in others. It may be the exact thing they need on their journey. But in order to know this, you must be secure in knowing you are love. That we are all love. That we are all choosing our paths. We are all secure and safe. We are all experiencing life in the flesh.

Life is to be fun. But don’t judge what fun is. Some have fun walking on the beach, some pushing their bodies to the limits, some inventing new things, some holding babies in their arms, some teaching, some learning, some…. It is endless and you can appreciate the endless ways people have fun, if you don’t judge.

I think this nursery rhyme is spot on:

Row, row, row your boat,

Gently down the stream.

Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,

Life is but a dream.

If it feels complicated or confusing, simplify it. Judge not.