Authenticity

Authenticity

Genuine. That is how I see authenticity. Fake. That is the opposite of authenticity.

We are all genuine at times and fake at times. Why?

I think it is a head and heart thing. When we come from the heart, we are authentic. When we come from the head, not so much. Our head (mind) works to keep us alive. All day, every day. And for the most part, that is a good thing.

A problem enters when we dismiss our heart for what our head thinks is a matter of life and death.

Most commonly this occurs when we judge ourselves against what we think people will think of us. If we have a desire, need or want that begins in the heart, we often think that others might discourage us, disagree with us or try to talk us out of what we want. And, once again, this is a good thing. If we say what we really want and then take someone else’s response into consideration, it can save us time, money and possibly even our life.

What tends to happen though is that we move into our head and say what we think others want to hear or be who we think they want us to be. Now, whatever we say isn’t our authentic desire but rather a modified version and two things happen at this point.

1. The other person responds with either a strong opinion or none at all because they can sense that you aren’t being genuine with them. They might not know that they sense this but they do.
2. You talk yourself out of what you truly desire because of their response (too strong or too weak). You now have someone else to blame for you not doing something for yourself.

Silly little game we play, isn’t it?

Unfortunately, we spend so much time in our heads and filling our heads with stuff that we usually don’t even know how to listen to our hearts. Fake feels genuine and authentic feels false. How is it that we dispute ourselves, our desires? Are we not the undisputed origin of ourselves?

When my head starts going full speed or the people around me become very opinionated or silent and things seem to be amping up higher and higher, I stop. I take a moment to breathe and allow my heart to be heard. Most of the time I discover that I am out of congruency with myself. I am not being true to myself in some way and this is causing me and those around me to be out of synch. We often think that this is caused by something outside of ourselves but that is rarely the case.

When we aren’t living authentically, everything is off. Stop. Pay attention. Align yourself with yourself and proceed. It is amazing how much calmer you become and everything and everyone around you becomes.

And always remember that if you desire and want to be Batman, be Batman!